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Dads Matter Too!!

Dads matter too!OK, I know that this site isn't meant to exclude the weaker sex by calling it “MomsMatter” but I raised the subject of being a hands-on dad with Deb and she called my bluff by issuing a challenge, laying down the gauntlet like that dude on TV Gladiators.

So here I find myself thinking about the trials and tribulations of being a parent, a dad nogal - that breed of human being that doesn't really have a clue what raising a child is all about.

Well I beg to disagree, well, maybe! Dropping my three year old off at playschool this morning, I said to her teacher, she (my daughter Julia, not the teacher) was really testing my sanity, and sadly she was winning the war.
Perhaps I am getting way ahead of myself, and if I want to balance providing regular articles to this great website, I should probably start at the beginning and not the present. The fact is, no-one said parenting would be easy. And anyone who said different obviously :

A. Never was a parent,
B. Left the parenting upto the spouse or
C. Is just a plain liar.

Yes, there are great times, and one little smile or especially a hug and a “I love you” are enough to right every wrong, but waiting around the next corner is a permanent marker drawing on the wall or a tantrum to drive you to distraction (or as I once heard on TV, to “Drive you to destruction” which although not the correct saying, is exceptionally apt when it comes to parenting).

Unlike my own father who worked really hard building a business and didn't have a lot of time for us as kids and never changed a nappy in his life – he gags at the sight of a nappy – so I was adamant that I would be a hands-on dad and that is what I suppose I have been.

One day when the judge asks for my plea, I'll say, “I plead insanity, You Honour” and hopefully he'll nod his head sagely and say, “You have been a parent, you are granted amnesty from all crimes committed.”

Michael Marnewick
 


Michael is a 'hands-on' Dad to Julia and runs his own specialty Internet Consultancy (MMVII), specialising in website content management. Check it out on the web: www.mmvii.co.za
2 Comments so far:
HAYLEY JACKSON on 17 June 2010
ENJOYED THE ARTICLE,AND WOULD HAVE LOVED TO READ MORE. MY HUSBAND FEELS LIKE HE IS ALMOST AT BREAKING POINT WITH THIS 4 1/2 YEAR AGE OF JJ. IT IS ALWAYS NICE TO KNOW YOU ARE NOT ALONE. I KEEP MY MOTTO CLOSE ... THIS TOO SHALL PASS!
LYN WILSON on 13 July 2010
enjoyed article...would like to read more..there are not enough "hand on" dads around ..I never had one and my husband is definately not one ! Well done to all the modern dads out there!
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